Love is more than a feeling
Hi !
We're in a really potent time on this planet.
The collective is in a process to work through its deepest layers of fear, specifically to look at when and how we've been out of integrity with ourselves and with others.
You are included in this, by the way...there's no avoiding this.
Ask yourself honestly and with as much neutrality as possible, when have you been out of integrity?
When you're out of integrity, you are operating from a place that is the opposite of love, which is fear.
One of the greatest fears you (and all humans) have is not being good enough, which is rooted in a fear of not being loved.
All fear is magnified by a lack of adequate
self-love.
This creates suffering in your life and manifests in many possible ways:
the relationships you choose
the way you treat and communicate with others, especially children and partners
seeking love and/or approval from others and/or running away from
deep intimacy and connection
the way you treat your body
the decisions you make for yourself
needing to prove yourself and your value to
others
feeling and acting as if you have to take care of others
living with a scarcity mentality- not enough money, love, time, etc.
In the healing community and beyond, there's a large focus on developing self-love, and this is a crucial aspect to healing, if not the most important part of life in general.
But, many people are told to increase their amount of love for themselves but aren't told specifically how to do that.
They tend to believe if they simply say, "I love you," while looking in the
mirror, or even sit and create the feeling of love within themselves, is enough.
That is definitely helpful, however, love is MUCH more than a saying or even a feeling.
Increasing your amount of self-love comes down to showing yourself that you love yourself.
It looks like:
standing up for yourself in your relationships with others.
setting boundaries with people as
to what is okay and not okay for you.
stepping away from people and situations that are not healthy for you emotionally and even physically.
asking for what you need and saying "no" instead of bending too much and saying "okay", or "yes."
spending less time in front of a screen and more time in nature
treating your body well with optimal exercise, massages, sleep, and nutrition.
and my personal focus in my life right now- loving your children the way you ideally wanted to be loved when you were a child and helping them feel THE top priority in your life.
Love is a choice...a
decision...behavior...action.
It all boils down to being disciplined with yourself.
That can be difficult to achieve when you experienced trauma in your life because trauma compounds your toleration of distress.
The more trauma you experienced, in terms of longevity and severity, the more challenging it can be for you to be discerning and disciplined, especially when coupled
with having caretakers who could not provide the adequate love you needed as a child.
The best way to help you step into more power, more self-love, is to work with a professional, whether it is a life coach (cough, cough), therapist, spiritual coach, or
other practitioner in the field of healing at a level that is beyond the physical.
An amazing way to show yourself that you love yourself than to step onto or further onto a path of healing.
It starts with intention to do so and to understand the power of investing in yourself to live a more abundant and prosperous life- physically, mentally, emotionally, romantically, and financially.
