You grow from your discomfort
Hi !
In the fall of 2006 I was busy finishing up my Master's Degree in Counseling and needed an internship- to work with clients somewhere.
I received a phone call from one of my soccer parents who told me he knew someone who was looking for an intern for his counseling business to work with...sex offenders.
I immediately felt discomfort, as I believe most people would.
But, I was at a point in my life when I purposefully put myself in situations where I felt uncomfortable and told him, "I'm in".
It was an incredible opportunity for a bid for power.
Sitting in therapy with them brought up a lot of feelings for myself- disbelief, frustration, anger, anxiety, and even compassion, hearing their own stories as being victims of sexual, physical, and emotional abuse.
During that internship I was able to neutralize my discomfort and gained so much personal power since I was able to jump into an opportunity that I knew would lead to MAJOR unease.
I want to encourage you to ask what brings you discomfort when you think about it?
- your own painful emotions?
- having a difficult conversation with someone?
- thinking about yourself or close ones dying?
- speaking in front of strangers?
- singing in public?
- trying a skill you're not comfortable with in a game?
- spiders, snakes, cockroaches, scorpions?
- having dental work done?
- telling someone they have something in their teeth or hanging out of their nose?
- pushing yourself through physical discomfort?
- sitting down in a port-a-potty?
The more you can lean into your discomfort, the more power you will gain...there's no questioning this.
Your uncomfortable feelings only ever come from feeling as if you do or could lack:
control- over a situation, person, your body, etc.
security- money, material objects, job, etc.
acceptance- from other people...or even yourself.
Ultimately, you're only ever fearing your thoughts and not the things themselves.
Anytime you face your fears you slowly, or many times quickly, release fear.
The less fear you have, the more confidence you gain in ALL aspects of your life.
It's as simple as that...it just takes willingness to put yourself in uncomfortable situations- safely of course.
Many people run the other way from their discomfort, but I have a feeling you are reading this because you want to grow and not avoid.
Sometimes you need support to do that and if you want to increase your personal power exponentially, just shoot me an email because I'm here to support you in doing that.
I'm sure you know having a coach in your life helps you grow more than you can by yourself.
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